May 11th, 2010
Sorry Jay-Z: What’s the big deal about the Big Apple?
My Facebook Friends, also known as the people I used to see every day before I/they moved, are doing big things.
Specifically, they’re moving to New York.
And I don’t get it.
Much like Nick Carraway in F. Scott Fitzgerald’s legendary novel, I am curious about the lifestyle of people who live in New York… But unlike Carraway, I feel no pull toward the supposed glitz and glam of the five boroughs.
As a native Midwesterner, when I think of New York, I think of a teeming hub of “eastcoasters.” Eastcoasters, to this Midwesterner anyway, are known to be stuck up, unnecessarily snobby and think the world revolves around their time zone. When I call someone an “eastcoaster,” I don’t mean to compliment them.
What’s odd about this prejudice - and I know it is one - is that I can get excited about visiting just about anywhere. I’ve visited 17 countries in the past five years. I’m ready to travel just about any time, any where. I have a deep-seeded love of luggage, phrasebooks and airports.
“The city that never sleeps” entered my life as “the place young and hip adults go to try to make it” during college. Specifically, if you wanted to be a magazine journalist, our professors told us, you have to go to New York City. A few friends moved there after graduation, with nothing but their caps and gowns, and whined about the rent prices for a while until they found jobs and settled in. I didn’t really find this striking at the time; I also moved to a part of the country, to South Carolina. It came with its own set of intrigues.
Then, during my first year as a sports reporter there below the Bible Belt, a very cool-but-unassuming features writer in her mid-20s announced, after much lamenting over the math section of the GRE, that she planned to move there to attend graduate school at NYU. She planned to study publishing.
The editor-in-chief of our paper, a delightful editor who was everything a beginning journalist could want - he barked awkward orders, wore suspenders and spectacles, and typed with his head down, hunched over his keyboard as he hunted and pecked across the keyboard - told the features editor that if he were a journalist in his 20s, moving to New York is exactly what he would do, too.
I looked on at her going-away party with the envy of a wanderluster, my inner vagabond stirred. But not shaken.
I have no family connections to New York. In fact, two people in particular convinced me during my early 20s to shrug off the Big Apple. And shrug off I have.
“If you love London, then you’ll hate New York. And vice versa,” said a friend of mine who studied in London a year before I did. Her family had some East Coast leanings, but she lived her childhood and teen years.
I love London. So I’ll apparently find New York big and impersonal. This advice has hung around my mind to this day, even five years after my 6-month stay in London, a city about which I believe Samuel Johnson is quite right.
“It’s like three Chicagos melded into one. It’s a mess. Way too big,” my mom said after my family went without me - I was a committed intern at Chicagoland Golf magazine at the time - to New York City for a convention related to my father’s work.
I love Chicago. I grew up in the suburbs and still usually mean Chicago when uttering the words “the city.” I love its neighborhoods, gorgeous skyline, Polish heritage. I love its accent, its pizza, its hot dogs. Its River, its lake-effect breezes. Its sports teams, its history, its mayor… Everything. Love it.
But three Chicagos? That would be a bit much. My mother made New York sound like a city that doesn’t know when to stop - kind of like its inhabitants.
But my friend the features writer, the one who moved to start grad school, began posting on Facebook about the grittiness of New York and its abundance of coolness about five seconds after she moved there.
Fast forward a year later, and I’ve moved to Maastricht, the Netherlands, trading South Carolina for the south of Holland and an editing gig. (I told you I love to travel).
In my first year in Maastricht, two more friends from that first newsroom moved to New York. I don’t recall who went first, but one copy editor went with a job secured and another reporter moved to Brooklyn with no job secured.
More photos, inside jokes and pop culture references to the gritty coolness of New York started to scrawl across my Facebook wall. This was exacerbated by friends and acquaintances who had moved to New York City after graduation and had gotten their second jobs by now, posting their daily updates from more noteworthy publications now.
I admit, sometimes I wonder… But really, feel no pull. Chicago, London, San Francisco, Barcelona, Berlin, Istanbul, Riga, Prague, Tel Aviv, Moscow, Hong Kong, Beiruit… Say the word, and I’m ready to go. But New York? I feel nothing beyond tepid curiosity.
About two years ago now, my fabulously funny and warm best friend from high school began sending me e-mails about her upcoming medical residency - in New York. We e-mailed and giggled about how cool her life would be - just like Sex in the City, only with scrubs.
Fast forward a year into my friend’s residency (which she loves) and an other fabulous friend, a Canadienne who I met in Maastricht, is telling me about her acceptance to a New York graduate school programme (Ed note: here in this paragraphwe’ve switched to poshier spellings to reflect the European beginnings of this particular friendship
and her exciting upcoming move.
I have to say: I’m excited for all my friends’ opportunities… But again, I don’t feel the emotional pull.
I really wonder, ‘What’s the Big Deal about the Big Apple?’ (And then I wonder if that doesn’t sound like a cheesy line Carrie Bradshaw would start a column with…).
Anyone?
















